Read Proverbs 25:1-14

Proverbs 25 begins by stating that it is a new section in the Proverbs.  It seems to be a compilation of Proverbs written by Solomon found by men under the authority of King Hezekiah, rather than specific content.  It continues to present wise warnings and advice.

Notice Proverbs 25:8-10 as it speaks to the subject of how to have a good relationship with your neighbor(s).  

Verse 8, "Go not forth hastily to strive, lest thou know not what to do in the end thereof, when thy neighbour hath put thee to shame."  Here we are cautioned and told to be slow to begin a quarrel with our neighbor (and I am sure the principle would apply to all people).  Relationships are valuable and hard to come by, so don't jeopardize them by being hasty in your dealings.  Also, you may be put to shame during it all.

Verse 9, if you decide to proceed, "Debate thy cause with thy neighbour himself; and discover not a secret to another."  Here is great advice when dealing with any matter.  Talk to the person directly involved, and do not broadcast the issue to others.  KEEP IT PRIVATE!!!  You complicate things whenever you add others into the mix, and run the risk of dividing and hurting people.  

Verse 10 speaks of the possibilities if you are wrong, and your neighbor is right.  "Lest he that heareth it put thee to shame, and thine infamy turn not away."   The individual with whom you have the dispute may make you look foolish, and thus tarnish the way others perceive you.  Do you want to be perceived as one who is foolish or as one who is wise?  Your reputation is something that will either hurt you or help you.  

In summary:  God's wisdom tells us to handle disputes both quietly and privately.  Making things public very well may backfire.  You have heard before, "He who throws eggs likely will wind up with them on his face."  Never act in haste when dealing with a problem.

Have an enjoyable day in your walk with Jesus.

Your Friend and HIS,

Pastor Abbott

MEDITATIONS

1.  When have you been hasty in judging someone?  How did that work for you?

2.  Have you ever made the mistake of talking to someone about a matter that involved someone else?  How does that fit into the truth found in verse 9?

3.  Have you ever strongly felt you were right, and then you learned you were wrong?  How did that make you feel?

4.  What does it mean to handle a problem both quietly and privately?