Read Proverbs 27:1-14

Whereas Proverbs 26 primarily deals with the folly of fools, the focus now shifts back more to wise advice.  

This morning I have chosen two verses that give a formula for real love and the way we interact with those whom we love.

Proverbs 27:5, "Open rebuke is better than secret love." 

Here is good advice. The word "open" is to cause to appear or uncover.  Thus the advice is to confront a problem openly or plainly.  This is not a veiled attempt to communicate something hoping someone will get the message.  No, it is open, and plain.  It is better to do this than to allow a problem to smolder and turn into a bigger problem.  Harboring secret love for another is one thing.  Harboring unresolved resentment is another.  With this truth in mind; 

verse 27:6, "Faithful are the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful." 

Let me first make it clear, I am a "hugger", not a fighter.  I don't ever look to cause problems.  But it must be understood this isn't about fighting, it is about loving.  I have known many people who allowed resentment into their hearts because they didn't want to confront someone about a problem.  They would rather completely disengage than to cause "waves."  They would rather, discontinue the relationship than do the right thing.  Criticism from a friend may sting like a wound, but usually, a friend’s criticism is for our own good. Any rebuke, given in the right spirit, is something we should gladly receive, and thoroughly consider.  A true friend loves at all times.  However, beware of the platitudes of an enemy.  They cover a bitter spirit and therefore aren't honest but rather devious. 

The primary truth in these two verses is that it is better to openly confront a matter with a friend, even if it hurts than to be two-faced and harbor resentment.  This is great advice for us all.  Strengthen your resolve to love others, even when it is difficult.

Have a good day in your service for the Savior.

Your Friend and HIS,

Pastor Abbott

MEDITATIONS

1.  How might you set the ground rules in your dealings with others to allow for open communication?

2.  Why do you think people are so slow to help another by offering loving rebuke of wrong?

3.  How might the kisses of an enemy be deceitful?

4.  How has a friend helped you through openness and love?